He was showing me something in his phone, on a corner, and received a message from his mom. [–][deleted] 110Answer Link10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (8 children). Wanted to actually mean it when I said it. [–]HAHAHAgaryMale 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), We both sort of said it at the same time. We are enjoying “us time,” which you would totally understand if you’re a parent!! If you feel like you're in a game of "I love you" chicken, odds are he's waiting for you to say it because he's just as scared of the potential rejection as you are. I did, I wanted to about two months in but I pussied out and waited 3.5 months. Men who leave the toilet without washing your hands: why? We had sex before I said I love you, if that matters. It shouldn't matter who says it first. He said it to me a few minutes after, and I said it back a few hours later. She said "I love you." She did. Straight men, what's the strangest thing you've been told not to do because, “thats gay?”. She did, right after I went down on her. It robs all of your power and places it firmly in her hands. I said it first about 2 months in. We fell for each other hard. Time stood still, birds fell from the sky (that's what it felt like, anyways).......he gave me a huge smile, hugged me and said: "awwww, I love you too!". You should say it if you feel it. Then I was fully awake. The title of your post must contain an actual question. It was a few months in. [–]thedictatorscut♀ 60Answer Link5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children), He said it first. Me. [–]SirCyclopsMale 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), She said it first, I waited a month later to say it but I had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship. She hung up. She caught herself and had an "oh shit" moment, but I just smiled and said it back. Saying the L-word is a big moment in a relationship. Fellow dudes, what fictional job/company from a movie, tv show, or book would be an awesome place to work at? She said it back straight away with the biggest smile on her face. It slipped out of her 3 months in. She said it right back. Your partner should go out of their way to include you in conversation, talk you up by telling everyone some of your goals and accomplishments, and show you affection regardless of who's around. My wife did. Not knowing which way it was going to go, once we made it to my parking lot, we were saying bye, and I just blurted out: "you know what sucks on top of everything else? But whatever, I still loved him, or at least I felt like I should. [–]esapollo 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (6 children), [–]AnEndgamePawn 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (2 children), [–]TheUndeadKid♂ 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child), [–]ninjaassassin201NUMBNUTS 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children), [–]tebows_gold_britches 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child), [–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children), [–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children), [–]jonnymous 70Answer Link6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children). During this time we both kept catching ourselves almost saying it and eventually did. She said it first. Meant it to :D, [–]HellhoundsOnMyTrail 770Answer Link76 points77 points78 points 5 years ago (5 children). Pardon my lack of lady flair! Search the subreddit. So I kissed her and said it back, I meant it too. Or at least she knew she loved me before I knew I loved her, [–]Metatality♂ 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). It took me a few more weeks before we said it to each other,. It was a casual relationship at the time (about a month's worth of hooking up and seeing each other), and she quickly added she'd let that slip and didn't expect me to say it back. Seriously, we're gonna remove this shit. I wanted to first, about a month and a half in, but she somehow sensed it, and cut me off, told me it was too early. I did. But it was because she was going into a potentially dangerous situation and wanted me to know. Its just how it works. Rendered by PID 11708 on r2-app-014b29f0b8a278ed2 at 2020-12-09 15:08:59.315980+00:00 running 59d663e country code: HK. ( we said lemons as a substitute till we felt it was the perfect moment. " He beat me to it. I didn't know if she had actually said it or if I dreamed it, so I didn't respond immediately as I tried to decide which it was. [–]cobalt_coyoteMale -4 points-3 points-2 points 5 years ago (0 children). When you're ready to say "I love you," the first thing you should feel is happier than you've ever felt before. This feeling of feeling like I should love him led to the feeling of me feeling like I should tell him. Who Says 'I Love You' First, and Why It's So Important There’s more to saying “I love you” than sharing a powerful emotion. [–]yetslineFemale 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). I think love is more special than sex, so idk. We had already hinted around at it so it was just a matter of time. Congratulations on the love. I’ve been dying to say it for a long time now but I want him to say it first. After all, who are all those romantic comedies and chick flick movies marketed toward? [–]quantum_man 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). [–]thingpaint 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. I believe it was about a month and a half to two months in. Go fucking ask them yourself. Cookies help us deliver our Services. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. She said my name and I sleepily grumbled in response. Downvoters: Who are we to doubt Han Solo? Relationship (in one form or another) is about 2 years old. We were driving back from our first road trip together, and it had gone really well, but suddenly, about an hour before we arrived at my place to drop me off, we started having a serious discussion that almost led to our breakup. sex). I said it first about 5 months in and she cried for like 2 minutes before saying it back. I said it first two months into dating. Keep your question concise. Men in relationships: who said I love you first? [–]Redtube_Guy 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (4 children), [–]tebows_gold_britches 52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (3 children), [–]MoldyTomatoesMale 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (2 children). Those who are working from home, how often are you masturbating a day. I say that because him saying it first to you means a lot more than you saying it to him first… When he says it to you first, it will come across as him declaring something to you. My feeling is that you should let him say it first. and join one of thousands of communities. I'd be all, "You don't know me, fool!" And then we left the party and ate diner reubens until 4am and it was the best NYE ever. I said it, around 3 months in.. Ended up just saying it randomly and felt so good to say.Been together a little over 10 months now.Can't wait to see where this journey of ours goes. Just go for it. You also should not say "I love you" if you feel that you are under any sort of obligation. We lived an hours' drive apart, and only saw each other once a week, so we talked on the phone every night after I got home from work. It was New Years and her mom and sister were drunk and told me to say it because she was too scared to. https://www.thethings.com/20-things-men-say-love-first-sight-according-reddit The beginning of a relationship is always plagued by the same question: When should you say 'I love you' for the first time? This was about 6 weeks into the relationship. About a month in my gf said it. when do you know you are ready? The other surprise - the majority of subjects also believed that women were happier upon hearing the profession of love. Posted by 12 years ago. Girls imagine you say I love you for the 1st time, and he conveniently says it back then? But at the same time, avoid waiting for the girl to say it 1st. 2. My girlfriend said "I love you" first a month after starting our relationship and I felt the same way and told her right back. Lady boners for miles. The more ruddy parts of Nevada. We arent dating anymore but I didnt say it back right away because I wasnt sure if I did or not yet. Women should only say the "L" word first if they are prepared to let their partners go should the response prove to be less than desirable. Where would be as a human race without alcohol? There is a big difference between guys and girls in relationships. [–]ferocity562Female 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children). [–]someguy514 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). I did reciprocate because I felt the same way. I don't know if guys care what the order is, but I get the impression that girls prefer you to say … Last relationship: she, about a year in. But as I age I'm realizing those feelings probably aren't love. We agreed to say whatever we needed to say at the same time, and both ended up saying, ‘I love you.’ It felt so awesome to say and we were both super giddy the rest of the night. [–]DrunkenBlowfish 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children). After about 3 months of seeing each other. If you are like most people, you might be tempted to say women. Do not storm into the modmail with a bad attitude if this is the removal reason. Yesterday, all I ate was two boxes of Oreos. She did. Read the Frequently Asked Questions wiki and do a search before asking a question. She did, and no. Frequently asked questions will be removed at our discretion. its too risky for men to say "I love you" first. Hi Love Shy, Yes. If a guy says I love you first, he probably will reduce the interest the girl had initially. Do not post negative/forever alone rants or whiny posts. There is no right way to drop the first "I love you". No, we were the kind who said “I love you” for the first time over a damn iMessage. Knowing When To Say 'I Love You" For The First Time Is Beyond Confusing, So We Gathered The Best Advice On The Subject From Reddit AskMen To Help You Out. I just pretended I didn't hear (although I give him shit about it now). We were laying in bed one morning when she said it. There are subs like /r/politics and /r/PoliticalDiscussion if you want to debate political ideas or candidates. [–]MrGreggleMale 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children). So, who should say 'I love you' first? I said it back about a week or two later. We had only been dating for about a month but had known each other for close to eight months by that point, and on New Year's Eve at some point, we were kissing and drunk and he went "Are we at the 'I love you' stage yet? She said it as I was dropping her off at her place after a few months of dating. I said it right back to him after. He told me first, at about 1.5 months in. I was drunk. I did. In every case for be its been me who said it first, but only after she very very strongly hinted that she loved me just didn't wanna be the first to say it. Go to http://www.WomensHealthMag.com/Sex-and-Relationships for more dating advice. Then, about a month later, she said it. We were in his grandfather's funeral, 5 months dating. Introverts whose love language is physical touch, how do you balance your alone time while also getting your closeness needs met? Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Who should say I love you first--you or your boyfriend? [–]NeedlecrashLET'S GET NUTS. I was shocked that he said it so soon since he's very logical and just not very emotional. What do you keep around your place? She told me to shut up and got out of the car. [+][deleted] comment score below threshold-15 points-14 points-13 points 5 years ago (0 children). Two years and counting =3, [–]cobalt_coyoteMale -5 points-4 points-3 points 5 years ago (2 children). Societal gender norms suggest that women should be most concerned with declarations of love, especially during the early, uncertain phase of relationships. "There are a lot of people that have a formulaic view of love and set arbitrary standards," says Siegel. I'm not talking about flowers and gifts. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! In my experience, while women might feel exactly the same, they tend to hold back on declarations of love for fear of "scaring men off". I said it first after about 4 months in while lying in bed - it just felt right. use the following search parameters to narrow your results: Unsure if the rules apply to you for your post/comment? Don’t worry about it — it’s not a big deal. Click here. No regrets, [–]OlavRG 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). Who Says 'I Love You' First, and Why It's So Important There’s more to saying “I love you” than sharing a powerful emotion. One night, we were saying goodbye, and I said, "I love you." It was about 6-7 months in and I said it first. I said it first time at about 3 months. First warning is a temp ban, second warning is a permaban. We all want to be with someone who is truly compatible with us and if I had … Do not ask yes/no or one word answer questions. https://www.vixendaily.com/love/should-you-say-i-love-you-first-or-wait-for-him [–]Lagmower 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), [–]McGiggins♂ 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). A couple of minutes later, she called back and said, "Did you just say 'I love you'?" I was single a week later. In my opinion, it's important for men take the lead in uttering those words, but the truth is that most of them could use our help. [–]blamb211Male 20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (1 child), [–]DEADdrop_ 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children), [–]accounthrow24 270Answer Link26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (1 child). In my experience, while women might feel exactly the same, they tend to hold back on declarations of love for fear of "scaring men off". This is interesting. That includes boobs, butts, and your weird eyebrows. He noticed I saw it, and we laughed, kinda nervous. [–]EmeraldCityZagMale 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). [–]Benjamminmiller 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (2 children). [–]simsim98 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children), It was about 3.5 months in and I hadn't seen her in a month, I said it to her and she was caught off guard. [–]Benjamminmiller 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children), [–]Guyinapeacoat 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). Should it always be the guy? Studies show that men tend to say I love you first and from all these responses it's showing that result. I think this was about 2 months into things. I was going to wait until we were back in the apartment and all cuddled up but then he sprung it on me before I could say it. It's always heartwarming to hear stories about longtime friends falling back together in a more intimate way. Sub will cease operations at 3,000,000 Subscribers. Do not insult or troll people, including in PMs. It may sound like a fairly trivial thing to discuss who should say “I love you” first, but creating and maintaining the right dynamic when in a relationship with a woman is very important. 44. I've said it to 4 women. Go ahead and say "I love you" first. [–]junkeee999 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). I got an oh (as a response) from her. This was all about 2 months in. What has been your lowest moments of the pandemic? Do not directly link to comments in other subs. And there was bonded involved for another month or two. Pool's open. Don't comment/post self-deprecating content looking for attention. Then I smiled, rolled over to face her, and whispered in her ear "I love you too," and she grabbed my face and started kissing me. Then she quietly, somewhat worriedly said "Did you hear me?" 2. Did you/she/he say it back right away? Do you and your doctor discuss what’s wrong with you like it’s a group project? John and Hannah tell you who should say it first. No clickbait (i.e. Now we are approaching on two years together. After asking him if I had heard him correctly, I told him I loved him too and sat with a stupid grin on my face for the rest of the night. I'll tell you why HE needs to be the one to drop those three little words, and what can happen if you beat him to it. I actually said it first about 3 months in. Maybe two months in. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. We recommend talking to a medical professional instead of the Internet. How long into the relationship was it? She was not happy. 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