It’s one of the three basic qualities of existence, also known as the three marks of existence, but suffering itself … ). SWITCH TO ANCHOR; BLOG; Sign up Log in. It’s part of the human condition. You are more than a title or a word. • Why Doesn't God Answer Me or My Prayers? The short answer is that we don’t always know why in specific cases. You’re going to suffer. God is all-powerful. Physical suffering is pain, aging, deterioration and injury. Sadly, life had other plans and in the summer of 1971 at only 46-years-old he was killed along with his wife Marie in a car accident. 6:7-9). Although some people may seek out suffering as part of a spiritual or religious path (which I discuss below), generally it is not a choice. The pain was understandably immense. Do you find the message makes sense or is similarly missing the point? Just have and see your “moment”. Every human being will experience suffering throughout the course of their lives. But through it all there is a shred of faith, strength and hope that will always be there deep inside. I’ve noticed some common reasons why we suffer. We believe that if our circumstances would change, we'd be able to act right. I wear my pain and memories of Jeffrey like a warm blanket and it keeps me warm. They often want to be more important than others. The fact that you can grow from suffering is astounding. often respond to death and suffering by banalizing and trivializing them, digging down to the roots of how you approach money and your relationship with yourself and your power, The post-pandemic world will be shaped by how we react to fear, heroically fought against the Nazis in the French Resistance, Feeling lost in lockdown? When you choose an identity, whatever that is when you say “I am….”, you immediately create a limitation and an expectation of who you are. Next time, listen and transform the act of taking care of yourself into something sacred and significant that can help you also care for others. As Job asks, “shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?” (Job 2:10). Humans don’t like being uncomfortable. Coming to terms with the difficult emotions you feel means being compassionate with yourself, loving yourself just as you are. You won’t get rich after bankruptcy by “thinking positive,” you’ll get it by digging down to the roots of how you approach money and your relationship with yourself and your power. My wife and I never even understood what REAL suffering was until our son’s losing battle with sarcoma was. What is a divided life? But suffering is the price of the ticket for this ride we call life. Organisms feel cold and hunger, animals being hunted feel fear. An individual brings it on himself. With this story, we see the dramatic difference of how the modern culture views joy as a pleasant experience and how the saints view joy – embracing pain and suffering so as to help save souls. Being overly happy about that or full of toxic positivity is not the answer. Although we endure suffering, do we constantly suffer? The blind French author Jacques Lusseyrand heroically fought against the Nazis in the French Resistance and was imprisoned at Buchenwald camp, but never lost his faith that life was worth living. Our answer is very concrete. “All our personal and collective problems arise from the illusion of separateness. At Calvary, mankind was allowed to do … How often I hear The Sky Is Falling, the Earth is finished,. we shout. @paulpellico I’m really sorry to hear that your lost your son. Jesus’ suffering on the cross showed the devastating nature of sin, the wrath of God, the cruelty of humanity, and the hatred of Satan. Even if you try to shut down whatever suffering you think is under your control it won’t work. That will only succeed if you start exactly where you are. @Intuitive_karen thanks for sharing your very personal experience. While reading the chosen lesson in A Course In Miracles for a day last week it sparked the motivation to share what I was getting from the lesson with the study group that I facilitate at a local Holistic Center. You are constantly hiding. The process was hard but the results have been vast and life changing. Being anywhere but the present keeps you from enjoying your life now. Humans have consciousness of death and fear the unknown. Because of Him, we can even speak of suffering as a call, a vocation. Many even cling to false ideas about the meaning of karma in order to reassure themselves that suffering is happening for a good or “justified” reason. The more you try to dodge rejection or get an easy go of it in life and love the more you are going to end up on the sidelines. Here are six reasons why suffering is a normal part of life: Suffering makes us human. You can aspire to the future if you accept it as a possibility not a certainty. Physical suffering is pain, aging, deterioration and injury. By going inwards into our own Hearts and understanding experience in an objective way, rather than getting caught up in the emotion of it all, we can transcend suffering. My daughter was murdered 9 years ago. You resist what is in front of you and suffer. Accepting that everything that exists is only temporary allows you to release your attachment to things, people and even to your definition of yourself. That’s a mental process not necessarily a reality. The best thing I can offer as advice to those suffering the loss of a loved one is…embrace it. As much as you may want to give up – and even sometimes temporarily do – you need to get back up and keep moving. Figures who many admire from Abraham Lincoln and Sylvia Plath to Pablo Picasso and Mahatma Gandhi struggled enormously. Faced with the painful reality of suffering many of us try to make sense out of it in a framework we can understand: we ask questions and struggle with the idea of fairness, for example, or situate difficult experiences and trials within a religious or spiritual context. As DMX puts it — quoting Nietzsche — in his 1998 song “Slippin’:”, To survive, well, that’s to find meaning in the suffering.”. These are the worst of times. He who knows himself is enlightened.” When you base your sense of self on what others say about you, you’ll never realize your true potential. The fact is that suffering is an inevitable part of life, from aging and death to heartbreak and disappointment. You suffer because someone may suggest that you are not who or what you believed yourself to be. Acceptance and forgiveness generates appreciation, self-love and compassion for yourself and others. When you choose comfort over growth you become a prisoner to your comfort. There are always things we don’t like about ourselves. In modern day culture, there is a concept many people share to try and avoid suffering. On one side you have victory, pleasure, love and belonging, on the other you have defeat, pain, hate and isolation. ~ Buddha. You see this in nature most clearly. Let the fear and despair take you into your core and find the healing power of your breath and the life within you. (Origin of evil) (Evil in the world) (Did God create evil?) Lao Tzu said, “He who knows others is wise. Suffering, or pain in a broad sense, may be an experience of unpleasantness and aversion associated with the perception of harm or threat of harm in an individual. God is loving. As you say, no! Lincoln and Plath both had severe depression and suicidal thoughts, while Picasso lost his sister Conchita when she was only seven from diptheria, despite promising God he would give up painting if He would spare the sister he loved so much. However, everyone’s experience is unique. “For those whom the Lord loves he disciplines, and he scourges every son He receives” (Heb. The Syrian Christian hermit Saint Simoen Stylites (Simon the Elder) lived on a one-square-meter platform atop a 15-meter pillar for 37 years because monastic life was too extravagant for him in his quest for higher meaning. In our pain, we long to know why God allows grief and hardship into our lives. Back to our question about why God allows pain and suffering. That is my point. We empathize more and we want to help, even if it is just to be there for them. Only by accepting what is can you take action that can change your situation. We are all made of stardust. I say eventually because it was a long learning process. There can be times when accepting that life sucks right now can actually lead you to stop chasing fairytales and codependent relationships and reclaim your personal power. Why Do God’s Children Suffer? More important than what happens to us (or the reason why it occurs) is how we react to it. But if you’re overly open to love you may get burned and have your heart broken. Our suffering comes from our denial of our divine nature, our lack of appreciation of our connection to all things, our resistance to impermanence and our addictions and attachments to things that only bring temporary relief. Let the pain reshape your world and hone your determination and grit. The root of suffering is attachment. It will make you suffer more than you ever thought possible. The answer is a Person, Jesus Christ, and His cross and resurrection. And the answer to all of these is found in Scripture. If you’ve struggled with asthma then you know how incredible it can feel to take a deep breath without any trouble. Suffering is often categorized as physical or mental. Finally, I wish to emphasize that as Christians we do not give a merely abstract answer to the difficult question of why God permits suffering. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”. And because of sin, humans cause other humans to suffer. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. Instead of suffering increasing the desire to no longer exist, spirituality and inner experience can be strengthened and suffering can bring us to a stronger determination and drive to be present and exist. You don’t accept that everything is temporary. You can choose fear or love. If you’ve experienced the worst heartbreak then you know how finding lasting and real love can make you feel. At the 5 year mark I imploded- after 24 years of sobriety from alcohol, I drank. But facing suffering in our conscious mind can be even harder. Why Do We Experience Suffering? Parker Palmer says that a divided life is “a life in which our words and actions conceal or even contradict truths we hold dear inwardly”. Ultimately, God ordains and brings affliction into a believer’s life (Ruth 1:20–21). This one is big. But there is a purpose for suffering that plays in with spiritual evolution. Only after the huge pain of uncontrollable drinking and the consequences that brought did I finally surrender, allow the pain to flow through me and the spiritual healing began. The Gift of Light and Darkness. To follow one’s highest joy and run away from those things that cause you pain. Grow? Though much of Buddhism doesn’t claim an afterlife, the typical translation of the First Noble Truth denotes that even in pleasure there is suffering, because we … 4. (Why do we suffer?) GSOB Daily. “Dance with whatever comes towards you.” #aliciaisms. That’s because we want to either get rid of the suffering or make sense of it and sometimes neither of these options is possible. Brothers and Sisters, These are the questions that so many people are asking? It can be our chance to notice even the smallest positives that still exist, like the kind person who comes to visit us as we recover from a devastating and nearly fatal addiction, or the old friend who brings over food after a painful loss of our partner. (4) We may suffer persecution because of our faith—especially when we take a stand on biblical issues, i.e., suffering for righteousness sake (2 Tim. We reap what we sow (Gal. No, suffering is NOT a growth hormone. If the Gospel truly is GOOD NEWS, then why do we experience suffering? Our physiological and instinctive reaction to pain and suffering is to escape it. It’s difficult when writing for a large audience to try to encapsulate everyone’s experience. That’s how winning is done!”. Before we touch upon suffering, we need to talk about polarity. How often do you dismiss this voice and instead choose a momentary pleasure or comfort that compromises the true nourishment your soul needs? Suffering and trials of life may increase the lines on our face, but it can also strengthen the kindness inside of us. If a person is not conscious, they are not suffering (thank Heaven for anaesthesia! I totally agree with this article. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you must have gone through. Emotional suffering is betrayal, sadness, loneliness and feelings of inadequacy or blind rage. Why do people take drugs? Suffering as we know it is defined as the pain we experience due to an injury, medical malpractice or even disruptions in one’s family life and etc. There’s a good reason why we talk about suffering so often in Buddhism. GSOB Daily is a podcast of God’s Storehouse of Blessings in Athens, TN. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. Why is there good and evil? And the pain is gone. Everyone suffers. The problem is that even if you said comforting lies once you know they’re lies they won’t satisfy you. When we suffer we are forced to drop all expectations and demands. And we know He has a merciful and loving plan to replace this world of evil and suffering with a world of righteousness and peace. Job 1:11-12). The only freedom you have now is to grow from the pain. I didn’t grow from it, however for 5 years because I kept trying to push the pain away. There is no way to achieve fulfillment and potential when you live out of fear. You may call yourself names that diminish you (weak, lazy, not enough, etc) or you may find your self-worth in the identity you choose (CEO, competent, parent, etc) and anything that challenges your sense of worth then becomes a threat or an insult or a conundrum. When you know what the cause is, you’ll discover that you can change suffering into awareness and find peace and happiness. The horrific suffering of cancer has turned once vibrant men and women into physical husks of their former selves. He goes on to say, “And yet our culture counsels us to do exactly that.” If the way you lead your life is incongruent with what truly matters to you and what you believe in, you will suffer. Our technologically-advanced Western societies often respond to death and suffering by banalizing and trivializing them. All life is connected like a giant network that may appear different but at its core is made of the same elements as the earth, the stars and all living beings. Either way you have to take a risk and you simply must accept that suffering is not optional. Rather than this article being an indicate of “what is wrong with each generation”, surely it would be better to see that it’s commendable to adopt such a perspective and start a conversation about it? 2. 8 There are other reasons why there is so much suffering in the world. I’m going to suffer. Life is connected and impermanent because the atoms that compose it are always moving and being rearranged, between living to decomposition (or death) which feeds other life. Skip to main content. But sometimes God's plan is for us to exercise a … “Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. Suffering and adversity has existed as long as human beings have. … The closest he ever came was when he said, “Show me why You contend with me” (Job 10:2). We’ve established why pain and suffering exists, but we also know that God has the power to stop pain and suffering. As Rocky Balboa says in the 2006 film of the same name: “You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. The question of why there is suffering in death for some and not as much for others is really not answerable. The main thought that occupies the mind is simply how to make it stop. Yet suffering can be the doorway to your personal evolution, to growth and expansion, if you choose to shift your thoughts and perceptions. We can learn from our experience, our suffering, and adapt that experience into our lives because the pain is healed. Suffering will always be present but if we offer our suffering to something worthy of our pain and grief we will transform not only ourselves but eventually our world. If you spend no time in reflection, in the deeper conversation with your Self, you will never find your true purpose or acknowledge the wonderful being you are. You restrict yourself, you protect yourself from life itself. You can’t just guard all your emotions and become a robot: and why would you want to anyway? In fact, when I asked myself this question and decided to answer it, I experienced tremendous suffering. Don’t run. When we experience suffering – or even choose it as some monks and others have – we begin to deeply appreciate the immense hardship that many people around us are experiencing. Wholeness comes from the acceptance of all parts of ourselves as individuals and as humans so that we can transcend the pettiness of our human condition and elevate our consciousness to levels that can indeed change our world for the better. God’s Storehouse exists to see people from all walks of life know God, find community, make disciples and change the world! (3) We sometimes suffer because it is God’s discipline. Sometimes the gut punch that lands you in ER at age 16 from a drug overdose can be the experience you look back on 20 years later and see was absolutely necessary for the mission you eventually had to help others through their own struggles. They are able to use suffering to burn through the layers of illusion inside themselves and enter the present moment in all its imperfection and pain. Human error may unintentionally cause suffering. When you touch a hot stove your hand will be pulled back before you even consciously realize it. Our mind tries to make sense of awful things that happen by either blaming ourselves and thinking we deserve it or by believing we have been singled out by some cruel force that picks on us for no reason. Those challenging obstacles will become the doorway to opportunities when you engage them despite your discomfort. I think the author is suggesting that there is always a choice with how to understand our own personal suffering. If we embrace our inherent unity our problems will cease.” #aliciaisms. When you experience this deeper connection to all of life you will feel the sacredness of all things and beings and you will never feel loneliness. Life moves in cycles generating new life and yes, death, and nothing will stop that universal movement. Oh, hell…this ain’t nuthin, kids! In this episode, I will talk about the 3 types of suffering and specifically the 3rd type: all-pervasive suffering. Think of it as an algebraic "X," or a value you're trying to discover. Why do we experience pain and suffering? My body is in its 7th decade, so there is definitely pain in this body for one reason or another every day. He is sovereign over all our suffering, though he uses means to accomplish his purposes (Luke 23:25; Galatians 1:4). Damn it, we struggle these last decades of our lives with a pain off loss nobody should ever feel…except for the fantastically uncaring plan designer and “life” process we are washed about in. There is pain in truth. Originally published at www.aliciamrodriguez.com, 7 Life Lessons From a Psychologist turned Poker Champion, How to Stop Making Things Seem Worse Than They Actually Are. An opposite but equally harmful reaction is to treat suffering as personalized: why does this sh*t always happen to me? Job never asked why those things were happening to him. Socrates famously said that “The unexamined life is not worth living”. It appears there are several reasons why suffering occurs: 1. I also appreciate you took the time to share a personal response here to the article. What’s the point of life when it can be so easily taken away? Let suffering and the memory of it be the catalyst that allows you to become a more powerful person: powerful at helping yourself, powerful at helping others, powerful in accepting the sometimes harsh nature of reality. Here are five important biblical truths about suffering every Christian should have ready: 1. You must learn to dance with whatever comes towards you. But suffering is also one of our biggest teachers and all of us are going to be getting to know it in one form or another for the rest of our lives. You were meant to be free. (Why does God allow suffering?) You want everything to remain the same. Running away from those parts you deny will cause you to suffer. You will suffer when you seek the illusion of safety and security because what you are seeking out there can only be found within. In the pain of suffering some individuals are able to find a cleansing fire. You’re experiencing suffering and pain. 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